As my Trusts lecturer once said after more than a dozen students demanded his resignation: well, I’m back. This letter is short and sweet but gave me plenty to think about. Thanks for doing this! Such a cool idea. My question is: how do you know what you deserve, let…

Welcome to the very first Ask a Narcissist! I am so excited to try this out and I’m grateful beyond words to the people who have helped make it a reality. My original plan was to wait a little while for people to write in with questions before starting to…

(this was first published in 2017 on facebook; I reproduce it here because it is timely.) [tw: mental illness, suicidal ideation, self-harm] I really wish depression worked the way it does in movies. I wish my depression gave me an attractive air of melancholy, rather than making it almost impossible…

“you’re so brave,” she says, clutching at her own hair reflexively, as though the act of me having cut mine off will make hers disappear as well. “I could never do what you did.” I am having this conversation for the fifth time this week, or the sixth, or the…

ask. what he should have done was ask. I didn’t want it. I wasn’t moving. I wasn’t speaking. yeah, I was his girlfriend, and yeah, we were living together, and yeah, we were both physically in our bedroom, and yeah, he was horny. and because I was his girlfriend, and…

I am gay and I am muslim, and I support marriage equality not because I am gay but because I am muslim. like many muslims, the first prayers I learned were by rote when I was a child. and so it was that at the age of five, I learned…

I don’t remember how old I was when I first started showing symptoms of depression, but I will never forget how old I was when someone first did something about it. med school was pretty rough for me. I didn’t really want to be there, but things weren’t fantastic at…